Interview with Hila Cage Coppola @bonafidesavage

Interview with Hila Cage Coppola @bonafidesavage

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

“5 Reasons that brought me to this career path;

1. I get to put together my dream team of creative minds for specific projects. This can be the best part, picking who to work with.

2. Getting to travel around the world.

3. Allows for me to embrace my creativity by having the freedom to showcase my talents and vision.

4. Being my own boss, having the ability to say no or yes, when, how, what, and why. 

5. I get to create something meaningful and sustaining for my children Venice & Cyress; that they can both choose to be a part of and expand on when they grow up.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started doing this?

When I was in NYU getting my MBA we did a project where the professors brought in a 1st grade class of schoolchildren, divided them into small teams and instructed them to build the highest structure they could with the materials provided and within a time limit by using dry spaghetti, yarn, tape and a marshmellow to be set on top of the structure to alert everyone that it was complete.

In the following days, the professors brought in fellow NYU MBA grad students into same sized small teams to compete against the 1st graders.

We grad students took this challenge very seriously. We addressed the structure by drawing plans, taking inventory of our materials, analyzing, and debating the ways in which we could make best use of our materials to build the highest structure.

Turns out the 1st grader teams beat us out by leaps and bounds.
Us grad students mulled over everything, spending precious time on who is to lead, how to use materials and our structures kept crumbling down. The 1st graders jumped right into the challenge, tried different ways of putting materials together, failed, and quickly tried over and over learning from previous builds and allowed for many more tries and experience. We focused on the what if’s and the 1st graders focused on the hows. My take away from this competition is that there is no substitute for trying things. Planning can be good but to move into testing rather than hypothesizing. Determine what worked and do more of it and less of what doesn’t.

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them thrive and not “burn out”?

1. Start every day with a ritual & intention.

If I get on my phone, open texts, emails, or social media first thing in the morning, I’ve opened my life up to everyone else’s influence and energy. So my own mission and focus gets diluted. What I do is prepare myself the night before for a morning ritual that works for me and is easy to accomplish. For example, if you like to meditate, read or work out in the morning, have everything you need ready the night before. And remember, your morning routine is not mine or anyone else’s. Do what works for you. I also find it important to set an intention or mantra for the day. If you aspire to have a peaceful day, visualize that day before you greet the world. If you want to focus on being calm and confident, set that as an intention. 

2. Know and believe that your thoughts lead to where and how your energy flows.

Where there’s water there is growth. Thoughts are the same way. What you focus on will grow. I don’t focus on what’s not working, I focus on what is working and lead from that place. I find it helpful to write things down if I witness my thoughts getting away from me. Writing helps me get the discouraging thoughts out or figure out a way to structure priorities so they are clear and manageable. 

3. Stay away from the how’s.

How will I get everything done by xyz due date while I also have to do 432 is an anxiety inducing concoction. How, for me is anxiety inducing. I get overwhelmed and burned out and learning to manage this includes asking myself “what do I need to do next?” make a priority list and get solution oriented instead of focusing on the how. Focusing on the next item keeps me in solution mode vs overwhelm mode, and keeps me from burning out.  

4. Create a zero input clear mind time.

Irritation is directly associated with an overstimulated mind.  I like to be in charge of my thoughts and take breaks hourly, to breath, do a quick stretch, drink water, or take deep breaths to allow for space in my brain for my own thoughts and my own inner knowing. I set hourly reminders on my iWatch to do this and keep me accountable. 

5. Negative Self talk is the number 1 barrier to success. 

So naturally, positive self-talk is an indoctrination to success. Avoid judging or comparing yourself to others. Lift others up, enjoy other people’s success, our world is abundant and someone doing well does not mean there is less for you. Once I understood there’s a never-ending amount of creativity, I felt inspired instead of competitive and that set me free. Creativity is limitless. 

None of us can succeed without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story? 

I would say that my bridesmaids who stood with me on my wedding day they know who they are. I have several best friends who have seen me through hell, back and to this day, some frequent shorter visits. I am still learning how to lean on others and create community, something that was missing from my childhood that I am now redefining and working to change for my children.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world? 

I pour everything into my daughters. My every success, what I’ve learned from every misstep or sorrow, every joy and triumph. I believe loving them to the best of my ability are the best things I can do for the world. I believe with that love and support they will create a ripple effect so strong, it will affect a change for the betterment of humanity. I believe every human is capable of that. It starts with love. To be taught to love, love yourself, love others.

Do you have a favourite “written Quote”? Can you share a story of how that was relevant to you in your life?

I strive to be the oldest and youngest in any room. How this is relevant is that I attempt to approach everything with the wonder and flexibility of a child and also hold that up against the weight of experience, knowledge, and the deep phylosophical introspection of the bigger picture.

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Anything specific you’d like to have mentioned in the article? 

The greatest crown you can bestow on someone is Love. For this crown is the only one that will leave a lasting positive change for generations.